Letter to My Husband: A Reflection on Faith

October 9, 2012

(Hello, friends! It was our one year wedding anniversary yesterday, Monday October 8th.  I started to write this post yesterday morning, but didn’t finish it until Tuesday night. All of the photos below, taken by Andy, are from our anniversary celebration at Poet’s Walk park in Red Hook, NY, which was our wedding ceremony site.  Thanks to everyone for the outpouring of love, support, and well wishes- we had such a lovely day!)

Dear Andy,

Can you believe we got married one year ago today?


The past five years have been such a whirlwind, a roller coaster, a challenge, a joy.  Everything that we are on this day has been building up since we started hanging out as friends in April of 2007.  Neither of us had any idea what lay ahead of us: all the firsts that we were to each other, all the tears and laughter, the blindly entering into something we had no instructions for, the breaking up for two years and subsequent reunion(s).


You and I aren’t religious people- nor are we particularly spiritual.  In fact, I’d say one of your defining characteristics (besides, oh, let’s see handsome, creative, talented, charming, passionate, and generous) is your skepticism.  You didn’t believe that I could be interested in you at first, you scoff when others speak of the healing powers of the intangible. I, too, straddle the line between skepticism and wanting to believe.  How is it, then, that we two fell in love? How did we come back together after such a long hiatus, enduring consistently difficult winters, and battling such things as depression and financial woes?


Through it all, we found our faith in each other.  I never knew what it was to genuinely believe in something before committing myself to you, yet I look back now and don’t want to imagine it any other way. To me, faith is holding on to what is and trusting that no matter what, we will support and love each other. On this, our first wedding anniversary, I thank you for believing in me. Thank you for being my partner in this wild, unpredictable life of ours.


Love, Christy

At last! You may now kiss the bride!



(If you’re interested, here’s some photos from our wedding day, and our engagement cruise last July.)

P.S. I wanted to share this blog post about not downplaying our strengths. Such a great read!


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  • Andy October 9, 2012 at 10:56 pm

    I think I will kiss the bride again after reading this!
    🙂 xxxxxxx

    • Christy October 10, 2012 at 8:47 am

      Prescription: at least twenty kisses per day, no exceptions.


  • Shut Up & Cook October 9, 2012 at 11:23 pm

    Happy Anniversary to you!

    Skepticism is good I believe…keeps it real and keeps it honest.

    • Christy October 10, 2012 at 8:49 am


      His skepticism was part of what made him stand out for me when we first started dating- I felt like i’d found a kindred spirit 🙂

  • Dad October 10, 2012 at 9:31 am

    Faith is not an emotion, not a feeling. It is a decision. Your faith is a merging of trust and belief. You and Andy, independently, decided to trust and believe in each other, to open up your hearts and allow the other to see the perfection and imperfections that reside inside each of you. The result of that faith is your love for each other. It can’t be logically explained or easily defined; there’s no red LED that lights up to say “my faith in you is ON”. You know that it is ON all the time.
    So it is with my faith in a higher power. A decision to believe and trust in something I can’t see or logically explain. A decision to love.

    • Christy October 11, 2012 at 9:33 pm

      Yep, you said it quite well, Dad! Thanks!

  • B. Martiello October 10, 2012 at 12:52 pm

    That was really, really beautiful, Christy!!! It is funny, my husband and I met the same year, 2007 was a good one…By the way, Poet’s Walk is one of my favorite places in the world, really good choice

  • Christy October 11, 2012 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you! I think it’s safe to say that 2007 is the year that changed my life 🙂 And Poet’s Walk was more beautiful this year than it was on our wedding day, ha!

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