Be What You Want to See

February 21, 2015

Be What You Want to See - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

When I was young, (8? 10?), I was sitting at the kitchen table when my mom mentioned that a friend of hers had died. I could hear the emotion in her voice, and I began to cry. I had never met this friend, but somehow I was affected.

I’ve always been sensitive, full of emotions, empathetic to an almost unhealthy degree. This week, I am affected in the same way. One of Andy’s friends from his early Omega days passed away unexpectedly. Alysun was forty-two years old. She was a music therapist, sound healer, and soulful singer.

Living in community for an extended period of time (thirteen years at Omega for Andy and six for me) has  so many benefits: we literally know hundreds of people all over the country and the world. But the majority of those people are acquaintances, or friends-of-friends. I can barely even say that I knew Alysun: I only met her once. But she has been on my mind constantly since the first Facebook post from her partner Brian, saying she had suffered an aneurysm and they were heading to the hospital. What followed is something that continues to amaze and touch me: hundreds of people have been constantly posting photos and memories and tributes to Alysun. She was pure light and love and she spread that to everyone she encountered. I wish that I could have met her before last summer.

Alysun’s death has taught me more about her life and how inspiring she was. In what ways can I be a more positive person? In what ways can I speak and act from a place of love? How many different ways are there to touch other people’s lives?

Below, Alysun sings a song she wrote inspired by an oft-quoted line of Gandhi’s: Be the change you wish to see in the world. 

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  • Carolann February 21, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss. She was clearly a talented and loving individual. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

  • Life Breath Present February 21, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    Christy (and by extension, Andy) I’m really sorry to hear about the sudden and unexpected loss of a friend. That’s such a tragic thing to happen….and at such a young age. I feel for the pain that both of you and all the friends and family are going through.
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  • Deb February 21, 2015 at 8:22 pm

    Dear Christy and Andy, So sorry to read about a very special friend and person’s passing. Her smile looks like it was a reflection of her inner peace, and life’s message. I love the quote represented in her song, it bears repeating often: “Be the change you wish to see in the world.:
    I send my prayers for comfort, and am delighted to see glimpses of all the changes you are making in yourself. Thank you for sharing, and we shall have to talk about your memory of my sadness years ago, losing a friend. We keep them all in our memories and hearts, which is always a blessing….remembering those we love and have loved.
    Love, your Mom oxo

  • AwesomelyOZ February 22, 2015 at 12:39 am

    I’m sorry to hear about the sudden loss of Andy’s friend Alysun. That’s an awful way to go – an aneurysm.. I know what it’s like to be affected by something not even directly related to you but somehow brings things home. It’s usually the fear of it happening to us, when it hits so close to home, that scares us with situations like this. I think very similarly but it helps to keep in perspective that we each have our time on this Earth and there’s no sense in worrying all the time about things we can’t control. Her voice is very beautiful and soulful indeed and it will live on which is more not a bad way to go. We all just want to be remembered. Wishing you comfort and peace during these times and take care of yourself Christy -Iva
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  • Kristen @ 31 Million Seconds February 22, 2015 at 10:23 am

    I’m so sorry for the loss everyone is feeling right now. I think this was a beautiful and touching tribute. I’m keeping everyone in my thoughts as they heal.
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  • Tamara February 24, 2015 at 2:31 pm

    Oh dear. I’m so sorry about the loss of Alysun. What a gorgeous video. It’s making me cry. I’m so sad about her passing and so lightened by the response to it, including this one right here. That’s what this is.
    Love to you both.

  • Seana Turner February 24, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    I’m so sorry for the loss of this precious life. I have a daughter who is extremely sensitive as you are. I think it makes for a difficult life, as you feel everything just a bit deeper than everyone else… like your senses have been rubbed raw with sandpaper. But I think God puts sensitive people in the world to ground humanity, so it is a gift to the world!

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