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Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance

July 11, 2014

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring

Happy weekend, everyone! We are on Long Island for our annual family Lobster Party! Andy and I drove down last night after work, which was such a great way to beat the weekend traffic (but oh man, were we exhausted). As I wrote on Facebook this week, I’ve been taking a bit of a social media and blogging break– mostly out of exhaustion. We’re in the middle of packing up our stuff and wondering if we’re getting a particular apartment, and I had virtually no mental capacity for anything other than working, eating and sleeping (plus, you know, looking at other apartments, too).

When there’s a lot going on, sometimes the blog suffers. I let that be okay, instead of making myself feel guilty. Because where does self-imposed guilt get any of us? Deep breaths and allowance for what is, however, are more in line with the self-care I’m trying to practice.


Nothing like a prior commitment to bring me back to the blogging game!

A few weeks ago, my friend Tamara had a great idea: for a fun twist, she suggested that we ask each other’s husbands questions for Ask Away Friday. As she put it, “I mean, come on – have you wondered things about Cassidy? I talk so much and he’s been silent..until now.” Be sure to check out Cassidy’s answers to my questions on Tamara’s blog, I loved hearing his point of view!

Also, I owe Andy a big one for taking so much time to think about Tamara’s questions and put together today’s post. Thanks so much, darling!

1. As a fellow photographer, I can’t resist asking you for some favorites. Are you Canon or Nikon? And what’s your favorite lens for: 1. Portraits 2. Buildings 3. Cities 4. Country 5. Animals

I use Canons though I don’t believe they’re any better or worse than Nikons. Once you have bought the  camera and a couple of lenses your’re pretty much set on track.
I’ve always favoured wide angle lenses since my 35mm B&W days and am happy to walk around with one as my go-to lens shooting all of 1 through 5 (my current fave being a EF17-40mm f/4L USM). That being said I’ve been shooting with a EF85mm f/1.8 USM on occasion which is great for portraits. Funnily enough I’m not a great fan of zooms prefering to get up close to the action.
If you have not already played with one pick up a macro reverse ring  for one of your lenses. They only cost a few dollars and allow you to mount your lens in reverse for some great macro action on the cheap!


Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Super Fly

2. I know you’ve been influenced by your father. Can you share a memory or photo from your childhood that really cemented your desire to be a photographer too?

My dad used our bathroom as his darkroom, filling it with trays, tubs, the enlarger, clockwork timer and glowing red light. I remember being fascinated watching the image magically appear before my very eyes. It always seemed quite a daunting affair though but as with most things practice makes perfect. I haven’t developed my own film/prints for over fifteen years now, so maybe a revival is in order.

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Harry Milford]

Little Andy

3. Can you share one of your favorite photos of Christy and tell the story behind it?

Here’s one from around about the first time we hung out. I was helping build a porch outside a friend’s trailer during the 2007 season at Omega and Christy came over to ‘help’. We chatted and I naturally took a few shots, the deck making a handy location for a photo shoot. Beers were drunk and a porch came into being. I tend to be a bit slow in these matters, and it took quite a while before I realised she had been there chatting me up.


Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Christy on Deck

4. As someone who struggles with situational anxiety, I am trying to learn how to better help my husband to help me during bad days. What is something you have learned about supporting a spouse through mental illness? Any tips? Wisdom?

All I can suggest is to be in the moment, be patient (with oneself as well as one’s spouse), love, listen, be a shoulder to lean on and a source of non-judgmental support. Sometimes it can be challenging to offer all of these at the same time, but if you are there and doing your best then you are doing something right.

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Christy & Andy, 2007

 5. Do you read the Sweet and Savoring blog? What is one of your favorite posts and why?

I do indeed read Christy’s blog! Mainly to make sure I get a credit for my photos 😉
I tend to work behind the scenes – tweaking the code, installing updates and the like.
One of my favourite posts is the conversation we had about living with her depression.
It allowed us to talk about elements of our life that we normally never discussed. Having to think and verbalise responses to the questions deepened my understanding and empathy for anyone who lives with depression. Knowing it is the most viewed post on the blog, it is satisfying to think that it may in some way be helping folks out there in a similar situation.


Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Mrs. and Mr. Milford

6. I love to read Christy’s posts about food. I pass through the Hudson Valley a lot going to and from my parent’s house. What is a restaurant or meal that YOU recommend?

Should you ever pass through Hyde Park on Rt.9 do stop at the Eveready Diner. I have a soft spot for it as it was one of my first diner experiences in America. Go for the all day breakfast: short stack of pancakes, two eggs over medium on top with a side of home fries. They do have a very full menu and a cocktail menu, too.

Eveready Diner | Photo: C.Milford

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance – Sweet and Savoring

7. What is your absolute dream trip to take with Christy? And your camera, of course.

The world is our oyster! Our first big trip will have to be to the UK. It’s been over a decade since I was there last and we have yet to meet the whole family as a married couple! It will be so much fun to explore, revisit old haunts, meet friends and family and maybe spot a place we’d like to settle down one day!

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Pierhead Building Clock Tower – Cardiff, Wales

8. I ask this to all my Ask Away Friday partners but I think you’re my first photographer partner – What profession would you most like to try for a day? What profession would you most hate to try?

Anything that allowed me to be up in space even if just for a day. To be able to look on the earth and take it all in with a single gaze would be a transformational experience (as well as making a pretty cool photograph).
I find it hard to hate anything but working on the killing floor in a slaughterhouse would prove challenging. Hats off to the people that make your hamburgers possible.

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

Planet New York

9. How did you find your way to New York? What do you miss the most about England, other than friends/family?

It was the summer break between my second and final year at University in Wales when my friend Helen suggested I fill the time by volunteering at a place in America called the Omega Institute. I checked out the website, which back then had a chat room and animated gifs, and though ‘Why not?’. It was cheaper to fly over and work for nothing than stay and get by over the summer in Cardiff, so all of a sudden there I was, flying into JFK. The rest is history!

I would say that the thing I miss most is the sense of humour and how that permeates everyday life. The people are great over here, but there’s nothing that a few lessons in the appreciation and application of irony and sarcasm could not help with.

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring

Andy, 1997


10. What’s the wackiest belief you had as a child?

Around the age of 6 or 7 I was fascinated by the idea of reading other peoples thoughts. Just because I couldn’t seem to do it, who was to say that others were not having a jolly time doing just that? I used to go to sleep at nights devising elaborate mental defences to counter such intrusions. Woe betide the casual thought reader that passed by our house!

Andy Makes a Special Guest Appearance - Sweet and Savoring [photo by Andy Milford]

The Mind Flower

 Phew! Is it over now?  😉


Thank you Andy and Tamara! If you’d like to participate in Ask Away Friday, just let me know or pop over to our Facebook group to request a buddy swap. Enjoy the weekend, everyone!

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  • Nancy July 11, 2014 at 5:38 pm

    Andy seems like a swell guy! Great answers to great questions. My go-to in Hyde Park is the Beekman Arms but I’ll have to try the diner!
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:18 pm

      Yeah, I think he’s pretty swell 😉 And would you believe I’ve only been to the Beekman Arms once?! I need to make a point to visit again!

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  • Tamara July 11, 2014 at 5:59 pm

    Hah, yes it’s over! Cassidy worked so hard at his too! Thank you for your sportsmanship – this was a fantastic post and I really will buy a reverse macro ring thing. Super Fly is awesome.
    I was given a Canon camera as a gift a decade ago, so I just went on that path. I have never thought there was a right or wrong although recently I heard of a friend selling everything Canon and going Nikon. I don’t think I would.
    I love these stories. I agree about the slaughterhouse but the going in space one would also be on my list of things I never want to do.
    I’m terrified of it.
    May you both get to the UK on the sooner side~!
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:23 pm

      I’m so appreciative to both Andy and Cassidy for this working out- yay us for convincing them to do it! 😉
      I’m pretty sure I would love going into space, even though it would simultaneously be terrifying, of course. I always think of the movie ‘Contact’ and how awestruck by the beauty Jodie Foster’s character was.

  • Liv July 11, 2014 at 7:41 pm

    Hopped over from Tamara’s blog – and glad I did! Great questions and even better answers!

    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:25 pm

      Thank you, Liv! I appreciate the visit!

  • AwesomelyOZ July 11, 2014 at 11:19 pm

    That photo of little Andy is very cool 🙂 Oh man you look SOOO different with a buzz cut!! How long did it take for your hair to grow out to the length it is in your profile image? 🙂 Nice answers from Andy I think it’s great that he’s so supportive and understanding of it all – especially that he does all the updates for you 😉 Saweet deal you have there! Happy Friday Christy + Andy! -Iva
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:33 pm

      Thanks, Iva! I love Andy’s childhood photos. He’s adorable!
      I loved having a buzz cut- that last about two-ish years. It’s hard to say how long it took to grow out, since I got it cut in between growing it below my shoulders, but it wasn’t more than two years. Now it’s above my shoulders again! I like change.

  • Tiffany July 11, 2014 at 11:44 pm

    OMGodness how nice to meet you! I love Tamara and Christy’s idea to have the husbands answer questions. So fun! You’re photography is amazing and you love for Christy is evident in every way you speak about her. Great swap!

    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:34 pm

      Aw, thanks for this, Tiffany. Andy doesn’t know quite what to do with all these compliments!

  • Carolann July 12, 2014 at 9:22 am

    Great pics and I like the camera tips. What a great idea for a post! Happy weekend!

    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:35 pm

      Thank you, Carolann- Tamara had a great idea and I’m happy everyone enjoyed it!

  • Echo July 13, 2014 at 12:53 am

    This was so much fun to read! I love getting the husband’s involved! Amazing pics, Andy!
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:39 pm

      Thanks, Echo- I love his pictures too 🙂

  • Claudia July 13, 2014 at 7:56 am

    Hi Christy and Andy, stopping by from Tamara and what a good thing I did. Such a great idea to have your husbands answer…
    Andy – I am absolutely with you on your view on Canon vs. Nikon – (almost) same thing, different label. At one point I got a Nikon, a few lenses and thus stuck with it. I am sure I’d be just as happy with a Canon.
    I love the early photo of Christy you chose – shows a lot of personality.
    You are from Wales? I went there multiple times while still in Germany for vacaions, what a beautiful country…
    Have a wonderful Sunday on LI!

    p.s. I prefer your short hair, Andy 😀
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 12:43 pm

      Thanks for the visit, Claudia! Andy is from England and attended university in Wales. We’re eager to visit both places together!
      It’s funny how dramatically both of our heads of hair have changed over the years, haha.

  • Alison July 15, 2014 at 9:12 am

    Really great answers, Andy!
    I love that picture of Christy when you first met. Awesome.
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 1:06 pm

      Haha, I choose not to be embarrassed by my attention-seeking actions from those early days. I had never been that kind of person before!

  • Stacey Gannett July 16, 2014 at 1:03 am

    Absolutely wonderful swap! I would love to take a couple of months to just go wandering through the UK! That Diner, sounds wonderful! I always love a good breakfast, no matter what time of day! That is an amazing pic of Christy on the deck! And I love reading about your support of her depression, it is truly beautiful! Have a great week!
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    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 1:10 pm

      I love this comment, Stacey! Yes, wandering around the UK *does* sound wonderful, especially since so far I’ve only been to Leicester and Nottingham, where Andy’s family is. Not even London yet!
      And yes, I’m a huge fan of breakfast any time of day 🙂

  • Deb Rothaug July 16, 2014 at 3:43 pm

    Love this one! Andy’s openness and honesty shines through! Thank you for giving us insight and a glimpse of possibilities in the future!

    • Christy July 17, 2014 at 1:22 pm

      Thanks, Mom- who knows what the future holds but it’s fun to dream!

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